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1 Dec

The year of maxxing: Has our obsession with self-optimisation

The year of maxxing: Has our obsession with self-optimisation
Merriam-Webster’s 2024 word of the year was ‘polarisation’; Oxford’s was ‘brain rot’. Both could have just as easily been ‘-maxxing’ – the one suffix this year who has mogged them all. Once confined to incel message boards, the meaning of its origin, looksmaxxing, is in the name: maximising one's appearance. While the premise may seem similar to the entire skincare and beauty industry itself (who doesn’t want to look their best?), it’s become an umbrella term for what people are calling ‘pick me’ men online that encompasses everything from simple grooming to extreme (and dangerous) transformation attempts. So, in 2024, have we finally maxxed out on ‘looksmaxxing’? The maxxing universe is split into ‘softmaxxing’ (lifestyle changes like eating better, exercising, using a...
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16 Aug

Beauty is pain: The increasing masochism of self-optimisation

Beauty is pain: The increasing masochism of self-optimisation
I recently went through a major heartbreak, and found myself experiencing a sudden storm of wellness-adjacent impulses, ones that arrived in lockstep with each painful emotion. Should I go on a keto diet? Get Botox? An eyebrow lift? Or an acid peel? True, all of these exercises feel consistent with “glowing-up”, a breakup rite of passage. Except they came with distinct feelings of anger, shame, and even violence. Why was it that these beauty treatments, which are sold to us as self-care, could feel more akin to an urge to self-harm? By now we’re all too familiar with the old adage ‘beauty is pain’. Traced back to at least 1800s France (‘il faut souffrir pour être belle’, or ‘one must suffer...
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