When WNBA champion and NBA commentator Candace Parker shared in December 2021 that she had not only been married for 2 years to Anna Petrakova but that they were also expecting a baby together, it took a variety of people by surprise. The choice to share such a non-public a part of her life was not one Parker took calmly. As she revealed in a recent interview with TIME, she only selected to achieve this to send a message to her daughter, Lailaa, 13, from her first marriage to former NBA player Sheldon Williams.

“I at all times tell my daughter to be herself. I at all times tell my daughter to be pleased with who she is. And I at all times tell my daughter to talk for herself and speak up for those who she loves. And I can’t say that to her if I’m not doing it myself,” she shared. “I don’t want her to ever think that I’m ashamed or not pleased with our family. That was a step that we needed to take. But we needed to take it on our own terms.”

Within the interview, which also includes Petrakova, it’s noted that the couple’s relationship first began as a friendship after they played on the ladies’s basketball team UMMC Ekaterinburg in Russia. Things would eventually change between the 2 as late nights spent talking evolved into sharing a kiss and realizing that they had feelings for one another. They didn’t see themselves marrying one other woman though, so that they tried to cover their growing affection.

“We literally denied it to ourselves for 3 years I believe,” Petrakova said. “Then we just finally accepted it. That was an extended, hard process.”

The pair would get engaged in 2019 and marry that December in front of fifty guests who had to maintain their nuptials and their overall relationship private. But now things are out within the open (in addition they have a son named Airr they welcomed in February 2022). Now that all of it is, Parker is grateful for the positive feedback she and Petrakova have received.

“I used to be at all times against ‘coming out’ because I felt like on this society, at the present time, you shouldn’t have to try this,” says Parker. “Society had a way of putting this pressure on people to return out. And I don’t think it needs to be that way. I believe there have been a lot of media members who knew about my family. And so they supported it. They didn’t out me. Or they didn’t put pressure on me to reveal my living situation.”

“We live in an oversharing world,” she adds. “It is best to have the ability to decide on the parts of your life that you simply share and the parts you retain private. And I hope I used to be capable of open up the door of conversations. And open up the door of how precious it’s to have support.”