In case you weren’t in her DMs before she shed weight, Amber Riley says don’t hop in them now.

The actress and singer shared a post this week doing a comical voice-over video where she pretended to be reacting to the lads she’s known for years now “falling in my DMs because I’ve lost weight.” The wonder captioned the clip, “Keep that very same fatphobic energy player. Ain’t ???? modified over here but the size.” And that’s on period (per her “Big Dot” conclusion).

Someone who could relate and seconded her comments included actress Yvette Nicole Brown. She shed an amazing deal of weight while facing the fact of a scary Type 2 diabetes diagnosis and said she noticed the identical response from men who were silent before her weight reduction.

“Right?! They straight up act like we’ve taken off an ‘invisibility cloak’ or something. I’ve BEEN her [sic] playa! And also you were uninterested. Keep that very same energy and kick rocks!” she wrote.

Riley, who recently shared that her engagement to DeSean Black had come to an end, told the lads of the Nice and Neat podcast that along with being single, she’d also been embracing figuring out for the mental advantages she’d experienced greater than the physical. It’s her way of putting herself first as of late.

“It’s taken me a pair years to grasp that selecting myself will not be selfish,” she said on the time. “It sounds foreign and it sounds inappropriate and it [sounded] mistaken to me for a very long time. But making those decisions to actively select yourself has really helped me say, ‘Oh God I actually don’t feel like getting up that early tomorrow to work out but I even have this, this and this to do within the afternoon and I would like to get my mind right.’ And that’s, ‘Amber, you selecting yourself.’”